Consider the examples of NEGATIVE THINKING listed below which are consciously evoked thoughts that are placed in our minds through temptation. Try to remember the words that were said to your spouse based on your thoughts. • Personalize – Thinking that all situations and events revolve around you. • Magnification – Blowing negative events out of proportion. • Minimize – Ignore positive factors. Overlooking the fact that everything went well, like organizing a successful dinner. This might include explaining away or downplaying a compliment. • Behavioral Thinking – I am either a successful spouse or a total failure. • Take events out of context – After an enjoyable day with your spouse, focus on one or two difficult points. The day was truly a waste due to… • Jumping to conclusions – My spouse doesn't pay much attention to me. His love for me is fading. • Overgeneralization – I will never be able to please him. I constantly blow it as a married partner. On the other hand, he/she can never do anything right. He/she will always be like this. • Self-blame – Blaming the total self rather than specific behaviors that can be changed. I'm not good for a marriage