Stepfamilies today are on the increase and so are misunderstood families. Marriage is difficult but marriage with stepchildren is much more difficult. In America, statistics indicate that currently 16% of all married couples in this country have at least one stepchild [Marianne Dainton]. Additionally, current predictions indicate that 35% to 40% of children born in the 1980s will spend time in a stepfamily before becoming young adults. So it is necessary for these children to understand and choose families in a positive way. The remarriage of a foster father and the entry of a stepmother create a new role in the family that may be seen by children as a threat to family roles. When a woman married to a man has a child, that woman becomes anxious. “How to behave, how to love them and how to handle everything that can make everyone happy” thousands of such questions cross the minds of their women. Being a stepmother is new to a childless woman who has never been in the situation of having children. He is about to enter a new life. It is easy to fit these couples with each other. The relationship between child and stepmother experiences the greatest difficulties. Children take longer to accept a new person into their home. My research question is why the stepmother faces so many problems to adapt to the children. In my article I will focus on the myth of the stepmother, the unclear guidance and advice the stepmother receives, the children's perspective on the father's and stepmother's new marriages and also how these difficulties turn the stepmother into depression and a evil person. Nobody is perfect, however we want to see the stepmother as a perfect role model. This pushes them to work harder to fit into those categories and, sometimes, they are still children... middle of paper... feeling of envy and jealousy." Journal Of Feminist Family Therapy 11.3 (1999): 1- 18 . Alternative Press Index. Web. March 31, 2014. Marianne, Dainton. “The Myths and Misconceptions of Stepmother Identity.” Np, 23 January 2013. Web.Martin, Wednesday. Stepmonster: A new look at why real stepmothers think, feel, and act the way we do. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2009. Print.Roosevelt, Ruth Barrons. and Jeannette Lofas. Living in Step New York: McGraw-Hill, 1977. Print.Marshall, Alice “Stepmothers can be MORE loving than a real mom. Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2091797 /Stepmothers-MORE-loving-real-mum-thats-stepson-chose-live-me.” Np, January 25, 2012. Web.Stepmom, Dir. Chris Columbus, Columbia images, 1998.