The child may feel the need to perform and excel in every area of his life to gain recognition. Not only does the child appreciate recognition when a goal or achievement is achieved, but he sometimes feels the need to control the outcome of his achievement by continually seeking new ways to gain recognition. Ongoing extrinsic motivation like this can make the child feel that by improving his performance and gaining recognition for his actions and achievements, he can control what people think of him. In simpler terms, the danger of becoming a people pleaser is brought into play. While an authoritative parent monitors and would most likely intervene to change this developing belief system, unfortunately, a non-authoritative parent may not be the first to take this initiative in their child's life. This parenting style typically leads to behaviors in the child where he may perform well in school to please his teachers, yet he may also feel anxious, withdrawn, and experience general unhappiness. They will most likely have difficulty dealing with life's frustrations, will generally follow traditional roles in social expectations, and will enter adulthood with a general lack of the warmth, unconditional love, and nurturing that children need as they grow up..
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