Couple History: My parents were married on December 23, 1990, both at the young age of 23. It was an arranged marriage, a process initiated by relatives we knew. Common at that time and age, both of my parents were comfortable with this idea, as it was the "norm". There was a rigid marriage system, present because couples engaged in a love marriage were looked down upon. It was common to marry at a young age while both couples continued their post-secondary studies. Having been engaged at 21, my parents communicated with each other before marriage through love letters. These letters were a method of understanding each other, discovering their common interests and personalities. It's been 25 years since both of my parents used the patience rule in their relationship. EXPAND Roles: Roles consider fluctuating power levels in the relationship, where the couple changes power levels as appropriate to the situation, also known as the “Dance of Power.” Couples must negotiate how to share power to avoid a power struggle. When it comes to matters related to children, my mother has the upper hand; as it states that women can relate better to other women. There is a natural instinct to have control over situations as far as situations are concerned……………. Relationships: Relationships go through a series of stages of development and change to respond to individuals' needs and conflicts in their lives. However, couples need to give their relationship time to mature, but at the same time be open to change. One of the crises that came was funding my sister's college education. Not knowing that he would want to pursue post-secondary education outside of the GTA, an action plan had to be developed in short order. My parents changed by working longer hours, discussing alternative options with their banking advisor, etc. It was a stressful time, but this was overcome by collectively negotiating possible options and deciding which was best. Within this conflict, both points of view were heard and taken into account. Additionally, this allowed my parents to do so through effective communication that went beyond discussing bills, changes in the child's life, but rather their own hopes, dreams, and concerns. With open discussion, this allows for trust and commitment, a critical foundation for a successful marriage. I believe that the time they dedicate to each other makes their relationship flourish. Having two children and an extended family brings a busy schedule, yet the rituals of evening walks or their internal philosophy of being patient with each other allows this relationship to have stability. They find time to discuss their feelings and bond as a couple, building their relationship one step at a time. There is always an element of strength present, to combat obstacles along the way, which makes this a success